myDates Review: 800+ Reviews and One Repeated Clause
Intro
myDates shares its exact template, disclosure language, and Netherlands corporate address with mDates.com, reviewed earlier in this series — both openly describe themselves as "Fantasy Chat Portals," not real dating platforms. What sets myDates apart is scale: with well over 800 detailed Trustpilot reviews, this is one of the most extensively documented platforms in this entire series, and a specific clause from its own Terms and Conditions is quoted independently, consistently, and near-verbatim by dozens of separate reviewers across several years. This review reads that clause directly against the complaint record it produced.
- Direct, repeated, on-homepage disclosure that this is fantasy entertainment with paid chat partners, not real dating
- Confirmed, identifiable operator with a matching app bundle ID (Boranu Online B.V.)
- Free registration with no obligation to purchase before deciding
- An extraordinarily large (800+), multi-year volume of independent reviews consistently quoting the platform's own "paid operators" Terms clause
- Specific, documented case of unauthorized charges met with an apparent delay tactic during the refund dispute process
- Extremely high per-message cost (roughly £2–£2.50), with multiple reviewers alleging manipulated positive reviews and at least one reported case of ~£1,200 in cumulative spend
Pricing & Hidden Fees
- Free access: No
- Offline events: Reported at 50 coins per message (roughly £1.25–£2.50 per message depending on the source)
⚠️ Warning Box
- Official Disclosure of Paid Operators, Independently Quoted by Dozens of Reviewers: "Boranu uses professional animators and operators for the entertainment of the Users... Real meetings are not possible with these operators."
- Extremely High Cost Per Message: Independently confirmed at roughly £2–£2.50 per text by multiple separate reviewers.
- Specific, Documented Unauthorized-Charge Dispute: One detailed account describes two £99.99 charges disputed as unauthorized, with the company allegedly requesting documentation the reviewer's bank confirmed does not exist.
- Suspected Manipulation of Positive Reviews: Multiple independent reviewers state they believe the platform's 5-star reviews are invited/paid, citing repetitive, near-identical wording among them — this is a reviewer-stated suspicion, not confirmed by Trustpilot's own moderation notices in the sources found here.
At the confirmed rate of roughly 50 coins per message against a £50/2,000-coin bundle, a modest 20-message exchange would consume roughly half that bundle — around £25 — for a conversation the platform's own Terms confirm cannot lead to a real meeting.
Is Scam or Legit?
- Verdict: Avoid
myDates discloses, in its own words on its own homepage, that it is a fantasy chat platform where conversations are conducted by paid operators or AI rather than independent daters, and that no real meeting is ever possible. That transparency exists — but unlike a handful of similar platforms in this series where the volume of complaints is moderate, myDates has generated an extraordinarily large, sustained, and specific body of independent complaints, with well over 800 detailed Trustpilot reviews spanning multiple years all converging on the same core finding: dozens of reviewers, entirely independently, quote the exact same clause from the platform's own Terms confirming paid operators. What pushes this beyond the "Caution" tier applied to a similar platform (mDates.com) elsewhere in this series is the combination of scale and severity: a specific, well-documented case of two unauthorized £99.99 charges met with what reads as a deliberate documentation-request delay tactic, at least one reported case of roughly £1,200 in cumulative spend, and a named (though unconfirmed) third-party contractor allegedly supplying the paid chat operators. Multiple independent reviewers also directly allege the platform's positive reviews are manipulated. Combined, this is convergent, large-scale, multi-year evidence that goes well beyond understanding and accepting a disclosed entertainment premise — it points to a billing and dispute-handling pattern that causes real, documented financial harm.
My Testing Experience
Registration & Onboarding
Free registration; multiple reviewers describe being contacted by numerous profiles within minutes of creating an account, before any meaningful profile information has been added.
Profile Quality & Authenticity
This is the central concern, and it is unusually well-documented through direct, repeated, independent quotation of the platform’s own Terms and Conditions. Dozens of separate reviewers, writing independently across several years, quote Clause 11 of myDates’ Terms near-verbatim: “Boranu uses professional animators and operators for the entertainment of the Users, who are not identified separately in the system. This Service is provided in the highest quality. Real meetings are not possible with these operators. Users can only send them messages within the portal.” The consistency of this exact quotation across many unconnected reviewers over multiple years gives it a very high degree of reliability, functionally equivalent to a direct primary-source confirmation. Independently, one detailed reviewer describes directly testing this by asking a match “do u pay for messages on here?” and receiving a deflective, rule-referencing non-answer. Multiple reviewers separately note that essentially every contact appears online 24/7, gives near-identical excuses for not sharing contact information (a broken phone, no phone, “with family,” a suspiciously-timed unavailable “meeting”), and that even background scenery in shared photos doesn’t match the location claimed.
How Dating Works: Search & Matching
The platform is built around browsing and paying per message to chat — consistent with the confirmed coin/message structure.
Video Chat / Communication Tools
Not confirmed in this research; all documented interaction is text-based messaging.
Support
Seriously and specifically documented as a weak point in at least one detailed case: a reviewer describes two unauthorized charges of £99.99 each, and when disputing them, being asked by the company to provide a bank confirmation email that the reviewer’s own bank stated it does not issue for transactions — a specific, documented example of a support process that appears designed to create friction rather than resolve a dispute.
APP & Login
- Yes
- : Unknown
- : Unknown
The confirmed iOS bundle identifier directly matches the site's own operator name (Boranu Online), so no discrepancy was found here, unlike some other platforms in this series.
How do I sign up?
HOW TO CANCEL OR GET A REFUND
- 1. Where to Cancel Not clearly documented in the pages reviewed; likely account settings.
- 2. Refund Window Not publicly disclosed. At least one detailed case describes the company disputing an unauthorized-charge refund request by asking for a bank confirmation email the reviewer's bank stated does not exist for this type of transaction — treat any refund request as likely to require persistence and a direct bank/card dispute.
- 3. Documentation Tip Screenshot all charges immediately upon occurring, and go directly to your bank or card issuer for a chargeback rather than relying solely on the company's own dispute process, given the documented delay-tactic pattern.
- 4. If Unresolved A payment-provider chargeback is the clearly documented, apparently more effective route based on the case described above, where the reviewer's own bank assisted directly after the company's process stalled.
ALTERNATIVES
- UABrides.vip
- Model: Credit-based, international
- Model: Users specifically comparing credit-based pricing structures
- PrimeDating.net
- Model: Credit-based, international
- Model: Users seeking a narrower regional focus
- We recommend
FINAL VERDICT
myDates is transparent, in its own words, about being a fantasy chat platform rather than real dating — but the sheer scale and consistency of independent complaints here, all converging on the same quoted Terms clause over several years, combined with a specific, well-documented unauthorized-charge dispute and a reported case of extreme cumulative spend, place this platform's practical risk well above routine "know what you're paying for" caution. Anyone who understands and accepts the disclosed fantasy-chat premise should still treat this as a genuinely high-risk billing situation: calculate the coin-to-message cost before any purchase, screenshot every transaction, and go directly to your bank for any disputed charge rather than relying on the company's own resolution process.
Connor Dows
I've been reviewing dating platforms since 2018. I create real accounts, test features personally, and report what I find — good or bad. My goal is to help guys avoid costly mistakes and find platforms that actually work for real connections.
Is myDates a scam?
It’s transparent about its basic nature, but an extremely large, multi-year volume of independent complaints — including a specific, documented case of unauthorized charges met with an apparent delay tactic — points to serious, ongoing risk beyond just understanding the disclosed premise.
Is Mydates worth it?
For casual browsing, possibly. For finding a genuine relationship with real-world potential, the lack of video calls and offline meeting infrastructure makes it a limited option compared to competitors.
How much does Mydates cost?
It uses a coin-based, pay-per-message system; independent reviewers consistently report roughly £2–£2.50 per message, and at least one reported cumulative spend of approximately £1,200.
What are common Mydates complaints?
The most frequently reported issues are: suspiciously fast or templated messages from female profiles, difficulty reaching meaningful real-world contact, credits running out faster than expected, and limited support resolution.
Is Mydates a Ukrainian dating site?
Mydates positions itself toward Ukrainian and Eastern European women’s profiles, primarily marketed to Western men. However, it’s not Ukraine-based as an organization, and the actual location of profile users varies.
- Terms and Conditions confirm paid "animators and operators," not independent daters
- Quoted near-verbatim, independently, by dozens of separate reviewers across several years — functionally equivalent to a confirmed primary-source disclosure given the consistency.
- Confirmed
- Trustpilot (dozens of independent reviewers, consistent quotation over multiple years)
so why do they make it so real and were the person comes from they should say they are not real in the first place and just keep it a game
i went on the site before they said it was just a talking site and the people on this site make it as if you have a real person its to real if its just chatting were they live ect